SU is in a reflective mood today as we come up on Thanksgiving. Let me preface this by saying that I don’t care about your politics – you are entitled to support whomever you like. This is America. You can shout it from the treetops. Have at it.
But SU is thinking about how coaches and athletes deal with losing under the most stressful circumstances and with the world watching. SU asks this question: “What do Isiah Thomas and Ille Nastase have in common?” Answer: both were classless losers. We all remember when Isiah walked off the court in the playoff against Michael Jordan and the Bulls when Chicago was finally able to overcome the Pistons. He couldn’t even wait until the final buzzer – just took his teammates down the side of the court and into the locker room with the game going on and did not congratulate the Bulls and Jordan on a hard-fought series win. Jordan never forgot that – and neither did many fans. It’s a stain on his legacy.
Back in the 1970s, Nastase played an early rounds match at Forest Hills at the US Open against Hans Pohman from Germany. SU and long-time subscriber, J. Levine, were in the stands to witness it. Nastase was in all his glory – acting out, yelling and cursing at the umpire and the linesmen. Pohman was some journeyman player – never heard of him. Pohman won and at the net, instead of shaking hands, Nastase spat at him. And mind you, Pohman had done nothing but win. He was not acting out in any way. Classless.
The point is this. People are watching. Kids are watching. They watch our athletes, coaches, leaders. How people act when they lose makes an impression and if you are in the spotlight, others will emulate you. There are some who do it right. If you follow men’s tennis, and the Big Three of Federer, Nadal and Djokovic, they have played some epic 5-set, 5-hour+ matches and at the end, they congratulate the other on the victory. SU has always thought that this was great – no matter how competitive you are, you lose — or win — with dignity. You know others are watching. You say the right things at the awards ceremony. It’s not that hard to do. At the end of Stanley Cup playoff series, no matter how many fights there were, the teams line up to shake hands and show respect. Golf takes it to the maximum – no showing the other players up, no spiking the ball. At the 18th hole, you take off your hat and shake hands.
In this era of social media and over-the-top celebrations, SU knows that times have changed. The bat flip on a home run, the celebration of making a first down, the trash talk. But in the end, the coaches shake hands and the players (generally) tip their caps. And yes, there are endings where the game hinged on a bad call (see Big Ten officials every week) or a missed ball or strike call, but you accept the result and move on. As a coach, you set the tone for your team longer term and mourn the loss and move on. You do that because it’s the right thing to do and you want to set the example. And others will remember that too.
And that’s why – along with a thousand other reasons – the last 3 weeks have been so awful and stressful. There will be no concession speech, no graceful exit, no “do the right thing.” Instead we get the leader of the free world spitting over the net at the 80 million people who didn’t vote for him. And others are watching – kids, other current and future losers who will view this as normal behavior and acceptable in all kinds of situations.
The world is watching. Do better. Be better.
Happy Thanksgiving.